Luv Letters 5
To Mr. Guy on The Side:
First things first, this goes against everything I stand for. But, some of you are knuckleheads and refuse to take another man's word as bond. Ironically, the song that has been going through my head the last several days is Little Brother's "Don't you have a man?"
To be perfectly honest if you are reading this because you are currently a guy on the side and you are frustrated with your position, do me a favor........smack yourself. You must understand the complexity of the situation before you understand the situation itself. Bear with me it will all make sense. Any woman who has made the choice either under her own will or your seduction to be involved with more than one man is complex. you must understand the position that she has put herself in. She has stability with her current partner. But you represent the instability which makes her feel adventurous. She is torn between her loyalty to her partner and her loyalty to herself.......thats a whole separate topic.
But since you are probably impatient, here are rules to live by if you decide to be "Mr. Guy on the side."
Rule #1
Be yourself.......Your appeal was not how much better you were than her current partner. Your appeal was that you were you. Think about it. If you have never in your life over compensated for anything; why start now? If you have always been yourself; why be like someone else?
Rule #2
Don't ask questions......Thats what "he" does. He asks questions. He wants to know about what she is doing, not about "her". If you ask any questions, make sure they are directly associated with "her". She has been neglected so you need to make "her" feel appreciated. Your job or your position rather is not to be the detective. Detective work is a sign of insecurity. She liked you because you were not insecure.
Rule #3
Assume the worst......If she is not with you, she is probably with him. The sooner you accept that......the easier it will be on you. You have to realize she has years involved with "him" and a few weeks, maybe months with you. They are still friends. You cant keep her from "him". You can only keep her from "him" while she is with you. She has to be two separate people. She is "his" girlfriend when she is not with you, and she is torn when she is with you. She is living a life that is hard to maintain. So assume that any time you spend together is priceless and the next time is NEVER guaranteed.
Rule #4
You are not going to take "his" place......at least no time soon. Stop trying so hard....thats easy.
Rule #5
Know when to leave it alone.......at first the excitement is worth it all. But make sure you know when you have had enough of her disappearing act.......did i mention she will do that from time to time. "He" will keep her on a tight leash especially if he knows you are better than him. Expect the handcuffs to come out.
Rule #6
Don't fall in love.......Don't believe the hype. After all, you are only the guy on the side.
I did this for the glory. But id much rather you not even know my name
First things first, this goes against everything I stand for. But, some of you are knuckleheads and refuse to take another man's word as bond. Ironically, the song that has been going through my head the last several days is Little Brother's "Don't you have a man?"
To be perfectly honest if you are reading this because you are currently a guy on the side and you are frustrated with your position, do me a favor........smack yourself. You must understand the complexity of the situation before you understand the situation itself. Bear with me it will all make sense. Any woman who has made the choice either under her own will or your seduction to be involved with more than one man is complex. you must understand the position that she has put herself in. She has stability with her current partner. But you represent the instability which makes her feel adventurous. She is torn between her loyalty to her partner and her loyalty to herself.......thats a whole separate topic.
But since you are probably impatient, here are rules to live by if you decide to be "Mr. Guy on the side."
Rule #1
Be yourself.......Your appeal was not how much better you were than her current partner. Your appeal was that you were you. Think about it. If you have never in your life over compensated for anything; why start now? If you have always been yourself; why be like someone else?
Rule #2
Don't ask questions......Thats what "he" does. He asks questions. He wants to know about what she is doing, not about "her". If you ask any questions, make sure they are directly associated with "her". She has been neglected so you need to make "her" feel appreciated. Your job or your position rather is not to be the detective. Detective work is a sign of insecurity. She liked you because you were not insecure.
Rule #3
Assume the worst......If she is not with you, she is probably with him. The sooner you accept that......the easier it will be on you. You have to realize she has years involved with "him" and a few weeks, maybe months with you. They are still friends. You cant keep her from "him". You can only keep her from "him" while she is with you. She has to be two separate people. She is "his" girlfriend when she is not with you, and she is torn when she is with you. She is living a life that is hard to maintain. So assume that any time you spend together is priceless and the next time is NEVER guaranteed.
Rule #4
You are not going to take "his" place......at least no time soon. Stop trying so hard....thats easy.
Rule #5
Know when to leave it alone.......at first the excitement is worth it all. But make sure you know when you have had enough of her disappearing act.......did i mention she will do that from time to time. "He" will keep her on a tight leash especially if he knows you are better than him. Expect the handcuffs to come out.
Rule #6
Don't fall in love.......Don't believe the hype. After all, you are only the guy on the side.
I did this for the glory. But id much rather you not even know my name
posted by Regular Ass Ronnie at
4:11 PM
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